I have combination skin, prone to oiliness around the t-zone. My skin is seldom dry except after more than 5 hours in an air-conditioned room. I sweat a lot, and profusely whenever I am under the sun, and the humidity makes it worse, so make-up seldom lasts long on my face while dirt and grime last the whole day! Surprisingly, I seldom have breakouts.
Most of the time, since 2008, I put on my make-up in my bedroom, under medium light – so I don’t quite notice any problems on my skin. When I do see something undesirable, I camouflage it with my two-way powder, I line my upper eye-lids with eye pencil (with the intention of making it look bigger) and I never forget to put on lipsticks. I seldom use eye-shadow, and when I do, the colours are either brownish or bluish. Honestly, I’d rather spend my money on books than face stuffs. That was me for 5 years – until last year, when I turned 40.
I assured myself that I was being a strong woman, independent of trivial concerns such as beauty and fashion when in fact, I was actually very much concerned – why else would I bother to camouflage my problems with powders and make-up? Worst of all, I didn’t wonder whether it bothered the love of my life or not. I should at least have asked him whether he was alright with my choosing to neglect myself. Just because I don’t care whether he grows pot-bellied and bald or not, that does not mean that he does not wish for me to look as nice as possible. The kids have no say, obviously.
Please know this – I am not judging others here – this is merely my observation about myself and my choices. It is totally different for those who have no choice. And much more different for those who chose to prioritize on other concerns and honestly are not concerned about external beauty nor skincare. As long as we are being honest with ourselves, then we should have no regrets in the path that we have chosen to take, right?
Anyway, last year, when I reached 40, I re-assessed my priorities. Don’t know why I did it. It’s just that 40 seems older, wiser. I have always had that expectation of people that have reached 40 – so it’s only fair that I should start acting 40 myself.
I had a good look at myself under a bright daylight, examined my heart and I admit that I have indeed changed – quite a lot. Not just externally (my skin, face, clothing, etc) but also internally (my spirit, concerns and interests). Honestly, I have not taken good care of myself. I concluded that:
- if I don’t start helping myself immediately, then I will surely regret it someday
- if I don’t care enough about myself, my kids may not care about themselves either – and I have 3 teenagers to motivate!
- Hubby is starting to look younger than me – which is ok if I were really older than him
- if I delay any longer, it’ll be much harder to repair all the years of ‘damage’ that I’ve done to myself
- I want to look forward to my 50s and beyond, without much regrets.
And most importantly, my skin, my body, my mind and my spirit are entrusted to me by God – I should respect them and take good care of them to the best of my ability.
Let’s just examine my skin first. My skin care concerns at 40 are:
I believe among the reasons why my skin have all those problems are:
- I sometimes skipped cleansing at night : when I was too tired and sleepy, cleansing became a waste of my precious sleep time
- I used simple moisturiser that has no other purpose but to moisturise the skin : I did it out of habit and I didn’t realise that my skin needed extra help
- Absolutely no sunscreen : I sat in the office almost all day long, so I assumed I didn’t need sunscreen
- I don’t use hand cream at all
- I didn’t exercise and seldom eat veggies – I thought work and chores are tiring enough and I disliked the taste of greens (but not anymore, thankfully! ).
My Skin Care Terbaik
In conclusion, I definitely need Skin Care Terbaik! How to get those? Just like acquiring a new skill – I need to educate myself, try out new things and learn from experience. I believe that in order to provide myself with Skin Care Terbaik, mere skin care products are not enough. I could have the most expensive and most popular brands in the world (as if I had the budget!) but they won’t make much of a difference if I don’t change my habits. I know someone who likes to buy expensive brands of skincare, which always end up unused – even unopened – because she didn’t use them. Clearly, she realised the importance of caring for her skin and she truly cared enough to make purchases, but she couldn’t make herself carry out the routines.
Skin care routine is really challenging for newbies, but making it a habit is even more difficult, and maintaining skin care routine during challenging times is almost impossible. Take mothers, for example. Oftentimes, mothers tend to do everything for their family and neglect to help themselves. We worry about our children’s pimples, but not our own dark spots, wrinkles and such. And working women, for the sake of work appearance, usually camouflage their skin problems with make-up and end up making their skin worse.
Therefore, in my opinion, Skin Care Terbaik must not be too overwhelming nor complicated. It should be pleasurable and bring joy to life. Happiness is the most important factor in creating our own unique Skin Care Terbaik – being true to ourselves and doing things that give us pleasure will certainly add a lot to our inner beauty.
So, that is what Skin Care Terbaik means to me. Not merely products – it’s my choice to be happy and to respect and care for my skin, body, mind and spirit to the best of my ability. Thanks for reading!